Tell people (especially men) that you’re a feminist and watch them recoil in horror. It’s almost like you’ve announced that you’re a murderer who is also terminally ill. Reactions are always ridiculous and instantaneous like, “you’re a feminist? No man wants to marry a feminist,” or, “so you’re a feminist? So you don’t like men?”

Lol. Yes there are people who believe that being feminist equals being lesbian. Also, why does everything have to be about men? Why should men be the center of my existence? But why do most people react so strongly to the word ‘feminism’ and those who identify with it? I have a theory concerning that. They’re afraid. Yes, afraid. I’ll explain. You see, feminism seeks to dismantle and abolish every single thought process, mentality and practice that reduces the autonomy of women. Someone once said feminism is the radical notion that women are humans. Feminism shakes the very foundation of our society.

And most societies, if not all, are built on the foundation of misogyny. It amuses me when people say things like, “must you people bring gender into everything?” The answer is yes because if you dig deep enough there are gender nuances everywhere. In our everyday life we hear things like, “ah no wonder, na woman,” in response to a woman being unable, or even able, to do certain things. The world has been built on the backbone of narrow boxes created for both women and men to fit into. And some people are actually quite comfortable in those boxes. It’s even easier for men. Their trashy behavior is excused. All they have to do is provide money and all things shall be added; by the women in their lives of course.

You, by identifying as a feminist, have already told them that you do not believe in the things that make up the core of our society and they see you as an aberration. An abnormality. You question everything. Your opinions shake them to the core; rattles them. Makes them think deeply about things they were told and just accepted as truth. Why can’t you just leave things as they are?

However, some of us believe that there is more, or that there should be more, to life than those pre-prescribed narrow boxes. But people are afraid of being shaken out of that already predetermined existence. You, by identifying as a feminist, have already told them that you do not believe in the things that make up the core of our society and they see you as an aberration. An abnormality. You question everything. Your opinions shake them to the core; rattles them. Makes them think deeply about things they were told and just accepted as truth. Why can’t you just leave things as they are? How can a woman not want to live her life for men? Serving them and being a doormat? Then what do you want to live for? I ask again: are men the beginning and the end?

Misandry is a direct result of misogyny. It’s a consequence of centuries of oppression that women have faced at the hands of men. It is mind boggling actually. How can you suppress over half of the population, deny them their rights, body autonomy, their agency and still expect them to love you?

Many people believe that feminism equals hatred of men. They even have a term for it; it’s called misandry. Misandry is, according to some people, “the opposite of misogyny;” i.e. the hatred of men. Well I call bullshit on that. PlMisandry is a direct result of misogyny. It’s a consequence of centuries of oppression that women have faced at the hands of men. It is mind boggling actually. How can you suppress over half of the population, deny them their rights, body autonomy, their agency and still expect them to love you? Please, how would this work? Hatred is a perfectly natural response to misogyny. And it vexes me when people bring up misandry as a counter point of feminism because misandry does not have the systematic power that misogyny does. There are actual LAWS that back up the oppression of women. Women do not have the right to abortion in many countries in the world. You could even get killed for trying to get one in some countries. In Nigeria, women can be beaten by their husbands. It’s insane but it’s true.

Misandry has no such power. All it has the power to do is hurt men’s fragile feelings on the internet. When we log out of twitter and go about our daily lives, guess who is still going to face benevolent and violent sexism? That’s right: women. That’s why I’ve recently decided that I will not be deterred by being called a misandrist or whatever. In fact I own it with my chest. Yes, I hate men. I hate their disgusting, violent behavior. I hate their entitlement and rudeness. I hate the system that doesn’t hold them accountable for their action. I hate every single policy, law or belief that states that women are somehow sub-human and that men are superior. I hate it all. Burn it with fire. And for those who think that misandry is a problem, please tell us how it has ever negatively affected your life and let’s compare it to the amount of female lives ruined, destroyed, damaged and snuffed out by misogyny.

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